Category Archives: Anchor & Guide

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Anchor & Guide: Where are you going?

I had my daughter fairly young, before I had a career or finished college. I was a college freshman when I found out I was pregnant. After having her, being a Mama and being a student then was a struggle.

Now that she is 6 I am currently a Junior in college studying Human Development. As her Mama, and as an unmarried one at that, I am  solely responsible for her college education, healthcare, home life, and overall current life and future. It’s up to me to have a clear direction of where we are going.

For many young parents like myself, because we were not established at the time of our children’s birth we are charged with forging our futures with them by our sides. Which has its positives and negatives. Positives include the ability to teach by example how to set goals for life and achieve them through countless challenges. Negatives include undergoing countless judgments by others and having statistics stacked against you.

For parents that wait there are positives and negatives as well. Including having the ability to provide for and give time to a young child and the potential inability to adjust to lifestyle changes that come with having a child at a later age.

Those positives and negatives vary across all families, that list is from my personal experience and does not reflect the full spectrum of family life in America.

Nevertheless, in all types of families parents are charged with planning life for themselves and their children. So where are you going?  Where are you going to live? What are your career choices going to be? What is the legacy you want to leave behind for your children? What about your children? If they are old enough they can be incorporated into the process of planning and the cultivation of whatever particular home atmosphere you are developing.

My daughter and I are very similar so things like home environment come easily but when it comes to vacations and activities we vary greatly so I incorporate her into the planning those sort of things.

When making lifestyle choices like where we are going to live, where I am going to attend graduate school, and things like that I always first look at the impact it will have on her. Some families determine these decisions on how they will affect the parents themselves. Again it all varies but as parents we should be actively planning and charting a course for our future.

I am still planning. Like I said above, I had my daughter while in college, so she is watching me plan our future and move ahead. If you have no destination  and have planned no future for yourself or your children, you  and your children are moving toward something regardless. What about your family? Where are you going?

Growing Mama

Growing News: Picky Eaters, Unhealthy Eating & Listening Skills

Parenting is always changing and developing.

Just like with technology, there is always an opportunity to upgrade. Upgrade your skills with some of the articles below.

Do you have a picky eater? If so this article may have the answer for you!

Do you eat unhealthy? Is it affecting your children? Read this..

Having trouble getting your young child to listen? Me too!  This article just might be the tool you need to improve your ability to get your young child to listen.

Jeremiah 29:11

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you,” declares the LORD, “and will bring you back from captivity.  – Jeremiah 29:11-14

You do not have to fear your lack of direction  and or confusion in life as the Mama Guiding your family. God has plans for you, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Anxiety, worry, and fear are not productive things to live on  because you know what he has for you, you can have the Peace your family needs from you.  Pray to Him and let him Guide you as you Guide your family. Seek Him as your family Grows & Sprouts in His love so that all of you will find him and be free from the captivity of anxiety, worry, and fear.

All families need a Anchor & Guide. We must lead our children, but to really lead them, we have to follow Christ.

Growing Mama

Romans 14:19

“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification”  Romans 14:19

Everyday has the potential to be life changing. I come into contact with numerous children and adults each day.  Romans 14:19 talks about us making the effort everyday “to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification”.

Edification means  the instruction or improvement of a person morally or intellectually, guidance, and building up of the soul.

Sometimes I may see a person that seems unhappy, lost, or afraid. According to the Word we are to lift them up, offer them words of peace, that may lead us both to mutual moral development and a life and soul more connected to Him.

In your day to day life, listen to the Word, and make every effort you can to help others build up their souls and lives with God. We are the Light of the World, let’s shine.

Growing Mama

Tough Times

We’re in a recession and people are jobless and losing their homes. The world seems to be becoming more and more dangerous. People are holding signs up downtown with words on them like, “it’s the end.” Talking heads across all the networks are talking about things as if they will never get better. The Republican debate Saturday probably prompted many people to start stressing out about another war, and the past mistakes of our Country.

It’s seems like we are all in Survival mode. Nobody seems to be living, and if they are we think it’s because they have nothing to worry about, no financial concerns, no health problems, and no debt,  and they must be rich and or perfect.

God does not want us to just survive. Just remaining alive and existing is not enough. God wants us to live abundantly. Yes in this earthly place things have been tougher in recent years, we have been at war for a while, are government has been dysfunctional, we been charging everything , and we’re drowning in debt but, We Still Have God.

No matter what is going on in the world, we need to flourish in our relationships with God and our families. Your children, your parents, and the rest of your friends and family need you to continue to grow spirituality and in your daily life. Yes the world is dragging its feet but you shouldn’t, God isn’t.

We have to remember that everything we need is in Christ. And in this time where people are merely surviving and existing please remember that we are to be the beacons of light in this darkness.

I hope that you can challenge yourself, your family, and friends to keep chasing the vision you have for your family, keep moving forward in the loving relationships in your lives, keep living and glorifying God, as Christians we know that this is just a season and we need to keep our lights burning so that others without it will be drawn closer to Him.

You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.  Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house.  In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. – Matthew 5:14-16

Growing Mama


The last few years have been financially difficult  for many of us. Christmas in our society (USA) is dominated by commercials, sales, and being a consumer.  We have learned to see Christmas for what it really is about, not for what advertising agencies and pop culture have taught it is.

Christmas is about Him, his birth, and the Gift of his life to us. In our home we also tie giving into our celebration of Christmas.

We do not go overboard. We give to those in need, we give to our child, and we give to each other. We send cards, we write letters, we give thanks, we give love. Christmas is about loving each other, loving our families, loving of friends, loving the world, and loving God.

Gratefulness, Thankfulness,  Love

Focus on Him & Love Today

Merry Christmas & God Bless

Growing Mama