I had my daughter fairly young, before I had a career or finished college. I was a college freshman when I found out I was pregnant. After having her, being a Mama and being a student then was a struggle.
Now that she is 6 I am currently a Junior in college studying Human Development. As her Mama, and as an unmarried one at that, I am solely responsible for her college education, healthcare, home life, and overall current life and future. It’s up to me to have a clear direction of where we are going.
For many young parents like myself, because we were not established at the time of our children’s birth we are charged with forging our futures with them by our sides. Which has its positives and negatives. Positives include the ability to teach by example how to set goals for life and achieve them through countless challenges. Negatives include undergoing countless judgments by others and having statistics stacked against you.
For parents that wait there are positives and negatives as well. Including having the ability to provide for and give time to a young child and the potential inability to adjust to lifestyle changes that come with having a child at a later age.
Those positives and negatives vary across all families, that list is from my personal experience and does not reflect the full spectrum of family life in America.
Nevertheless, in all types of families parents are charged with planning life for themselves and their children. So where are you going? Where are you going to live? What are your career choices going to be? What is the legacy you want to leave behind for your children? What about your children? If they are old enough they can be incorporated into the process of planning and the cultivation of whatever particular home atmosphere you are developing.
My daughter and I are very similar so things like home environment come easily but when it comes to vacations and activities we vary greatly so I incorporate her into the planning those sort of things.
When making lifestyle choices like where we are going to live, where I am going to attend graduate school, and things like that I always first look at the impact it will have on her. Some families determine these decisions on how they will affect the parents themselves. Again it all varies but as parents we should be actively planning and charting a course for our future.
I am still planning. Like I said above, I had my daughter while in college, so she is watching me plan our future and move ahead. If you have no destination and have planned no future for yourself or your children, you and your children are moving toward something regardless. What about your family? Where are you going?
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11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you,” declares the LORD, “and will bring you back from captivity. – Jeremiah 29:11-14
You do not have to fear your lack of direction and or confusion in life as the Mama Guiding your family. God has plans for you, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Anxiety, worry, and fear are not productive things to live on because you know what he has for you, you can have the Peace your family needs from you. Pray to Him and let him Guide you as you Guide your family. Seek Him as your family Grows & Sprouts in His love so that all of you will find him and be free from the captivity of anxiety, worry, and fear.
All families need a Anchor & Guide. We must lead our children, but to really lead them, we have to follow Christ.
I have a little extra weight around my middle section and occasionally I have a midnight snack consisting of salty and or sweet snacks. Case in point the warm cookies and vanilla ice cream above 🙂
Even with these bad habits I pack healthy lunches for and prepare healthy meals for my family. I offer my child fruit, yogurt, or a slice of bread with Nutella for a snack. I on the other hand down packs and packs of fruit snacks, ice cream, and cook fatty meals for myself while she is in school.
I schedule her medical and dental appointments like clockwork. I manage her asthma and allergies like a pro. I think I am an excellent Mama when it comes to her health but when it comes to me I am would grade myself a BIG FAT F!
I think many parents do this to themselves, we put ourselves at the bottom of the list. Our physical health though is very important to our families. We have to care for ourselves. We have to show them that we are caring for ourselves, that we can do both care for our families and our own bodies.
Not caring for health as Mamas lead to many things including:
1) Loss of Energy
2)Loss of Creativity & Brain Power
3)Poor Body Image
5) Various Health Problems
6) Teaches Children that Caring for their Bodies is not Valuable or Worthwhile
I have decided to Grow a little bit. I had a new years resolution to run. For years I have imagined myself running in a major marathon, but looking down at myself right now, I know that I am no shape to run not even to the end of the block.
I am going to Grow a little bit and start running with this article and in doing so I will teach my child multiple lessons including how to run, how to take care of herself physically, how to be a better mom, and countless other lessons I will only see when as she Sprouts.
What area of your personal health and well being do you need to Grow in?
My little sprout is in Kindergarten right now learning about the alphabet, colors, numbers, and other things all while singing and playing unawares of how much her little brain is soaking up. Children learn without even being aware of it 24/7.
This allows us to use every moment to teach them about love, life, responsibility, and everything else we want to instill in them. Recently a trip to the grocery store turned into a pretty in-depth conversation about higher education with my 6-year-old in which I was able to instill quite a number of things I wanted her to know and believe!
I typically go to the grocery store about once a week, but I needed to make an extra stop and my little sprout tagged along. Tired from school she wanted to ride in the cart and so I helped her in. Honestly I really get through the store faster when she is in the cart, even though I occasionally end up with crushed bread, missing fruit, and extras 🙂
As we were cruising the produce aisle we talked about her day at school. She was really excited because she had decided she wanted to be a scientist, a veterinarian, and also discover new animals.
“Mommy when I grow up can I be more than one thing?” she asked me overwhelmed with the choice of what to choose to do for the rest of her life. (she has been dramatic since birth)
I told her that she’d have to do well in math & science, get her undergraduate degree, her masters degree, as well as a doctorate and she could be all three! A research scientist that works with animals.
In that conversation she learned how important school was, that she could be whatever she put her mind to, that I believed in her dreams, that I would support her no matter what, that she was capable, that it was possible, that hard work was valuable, that I value her voice, that I love her, and many other things that will Sprout in the future.
I learned a lot from talking with my daughter about higher education, I got to know her hopes and dreams, though they may change, and as a Mama it helped me Grow a little too.
With our children we have the awesome opportunity to cultivate wonderful things in them, love, kindness, honesty, integrity, faith.
Every moment is a chance for us to teach them by example, by direction, and through guidance how are you using the time you have with your Sprouting Children?
Saint Patrick’s day is this weekend and I thought it would be a great time to give my little Sprout a short history lesson on who Saint Patrick was and what he did. We learned quite a bit together and so I thought it’d be a great idea to share it here at Growing Mama Sprouting Child.
Saint Patrick was a Christian Missionary and an Ordained Bishop in Northern Ireland. He was born sometime in 340 and died March 17th of 440.
As a child he was enslaved, and freed through the voice of God directing him to freedom. He also heard the voice of God again where he was directed to bring His Word to an area of Ireland where he baptized thousands, ordained priests, and helped to bring countless more to Christianity.
The green color has been associated with Saint Patrick from the 17th century. It is said Saint Patrick used the Shamrock to explain the Holy Trinity to non-believers.
Happy Saint Patrick’s Day!
Prep 5 Minutes
Total Time 25-30 Minutes
1 Box Auntie Annie’s Homegrown Organic Shells & Real-Aged Cheddar Mac N Cheese
8 ounces Frozen Broccoli Florets
2 Cups Shredded Cheese (We use Tillamook)
4 Strips of Bacon
1 1/4 Cup of Whole Milk
Step One: Prepare Auntie Annie’s Macaroni & Cheese ( We use whole milk instead of the low-fat suggestion on the box )
Step Two: Cook Bacon, and set it aside (I bake it while cooking the Mac n Cheese)
Step Three: Prepare Broccoli, strain, and chop evenly so that it will blend well with the bacon and mac & cheese, set aside
*Because it’s frozen I put a little water in the pot and let that loosen up the ice, then I break it apart with a wooden spoon. It’s an excellent stress reliever!
Step Four: Chop bacon into small pieces as well and set aside
Step Five: Add 1 cup milk, bacon, broccoli, cheese, two sprinkles of onion powder, and two sprinkles of salt all to Auntie Annie’s Mac & Cheese
*Mix well and cook on a medium low temp until the milk is gone!
“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification” Romans 14:19
Everyday has the potential to be life changing. I come into contact with numerous children and adults each day. Romans 14:19 talks about us making the effort everyday “to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification”.
Edification means the instruction or improvement of a person morally or intellectually, guidance, and building up of the soul.
Sometimes I may see a person that seems unhappy, lost, or afraid. According to the Word we are to lift them up, offer them words of peace, that may lead us both to mutual moral development and a life and soul more connected to Him.
In your day to day life, listen to the Word, and make every effort you can to help others build up their souls and lives with God. We are the Light of the World, let’s shine.
In the last six weeks my mother’s health failed, she passed a way two weeks ago, and her funeral was 6 days ago.
I was not prepared for the loss or emptiness I would feel in my life, I am not prepared for a future without her, I am not prepared for my own existence without her.
I honestly cannot believe she is gone, with time though, I will heal.
But I do know that God’s Strength is what Guides me forward now and His Grace is where I am resting.
My Mother taught me how to Love, Dream, and Evolve. I love you Mama.
* I will return in March